Nothing less than a QUEEN!/ 'GOOD GIRLS'

'I am your father and you are my handiwork' - Isiah64:8. For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother's womb. Psalms 139:13

I guess they speak for themselves! We were all individually created uniquely with love and thought! Every girl is a queen so who do boys think they are treating girls otherwise.. at the end of the day whether you’re in a relationship or not one valid question that should be frequently asked is: DOES HE TREAT YOU LIKE THE QUEEN YOU ARE? If you can't answer that question with an honest YES.. then there is a serious issue here.. at the end of the day we were all born as queens so we should be treated like one.. boys who don't treat you with the love and respect you deserve should be realistically shown the doors.. this brings me to 'good girls'..

If you are seen as a good girl and are quite young and mature enough to make certain decisions (16-20ish).. I don’t know about you but I've noticed you tend to be on 'hold' by this one particular guy. NOT GOOD ENOUGH! This is because a boy knows you can't provide him with the fun he needs in order to live his teenage life effectively, so because of this he tries to put you on pause knowing you will probably stay, and messes around with other girls that will give him exactly what he's looking for... now this is wrong because from these actions he’s not appreciating you for who you are and isn’t able to respect some of your decisions.. so looks for it elsewhere, if he really and truly cared he would WAIT! Wait for the times in which you are ready to give him whatever it was you were not ready to offer. I think ‘good girls’ should be treated like queens and because of this it isn't advisable to get involved with wastemen like this.. they're smarter than you think and once he begins to realise that your realising how much he isn't treating you like a queen he quickly fixes up reminds you how beautiful you are and how much he truly loves you, this is known as the CYCLE! And it goes on and on and on... Until your officially trapped and he can use the whole 'we've been through too much to let what we have go on you'. To be honest from when you’ve let it get to that stage unless you get a SERIOUS knock on the head this line will be mean SO much to you! So basically he's won and you've lost out on the other serious boys out there who would have been ready to treat you like the queen you are right from the start!

Please please please avoid situations like this for the sake of your heart! Queens deserve to be treated like nothing but queens.. don’t settle for less.. if he's taking the piss the bottom line is hes taking advantage and doesn’t deserve the queen you are! By avoiding this you will never settle for less and find happiness with *KING CHARMING* - love is real.. but only on certain basis and being treated like a QUEEN is one of them!

Wasteman!

I have come to realise that I cannot deal with wastemen. By waste I mean those boys who lack ambition and think the streets are their 'homes'. Now anyone could turn around and say 'you don't understand', which is very true. I DON'T. When I see boys who are 23, haven't got a stable job and just roll in their cars which have tinted windows it honestly makes me sick. Living in the western world is an honest blessing. Living in London is a even bigger blessing, there are sooooo many opportunities and yet still they are not being used effectively. Boys honestly need to wake up and smell the coffee, because it is them who look for serious girls.. but if shes serious 'she dont want you'. On a serious note, what are you actually doing for her besides brining in seasonal income as you can't and refuse to get a stable job! The world is against us all so I'm confused as to why people believe that the 'streets' are a better option.

Young 'love'

So how many people are still with their teenage 'loves'. NOT VERY MANY. As far as im concerned its all a myth! Just a very quick fast and efficent way for boys to get into your pants.. now at the end of the day with love comes a lot of commitment. When your 16 and living under your mums roof, the reality is, there is only so much commitment one can take especially for boys. Nobody wants to be tied down at such a young age and relationships should really just be about fun. Unfortunatley the mistake many young people make is taking things far too seriously and then branding their relationship as one affiliated with 'love'.

Now if I was to ask a 16 year old girl/boy if they would forgive a partner of 3 years for cheating on them the liklihood is they would say HELL NO (well im hoping soo). This however wouldn't be the same within a marriage due to the commitment aspect, im guessing a married couple would be more willing to work things out on the basis that they made specific vows to one and other but also simply down to love. Love is able to forgive and move on regardless the situation, when you genuinely love someone you are able to see pass their flaws and look for the good qualities that lie within them, this is why when I hear of women who go back to their husband after abuse or cheating I can see why they may not leave! (not saying its right). When you love someone you are literally BLIND. We can't help who we fall in love with and this makes things 10 times more difficult.. but when its there its definately there and nobody can dispute that.

Now to avoid these bad outcomes of love I think its advisable for young people to stay away from 'serious'relationships, esepcially because when your 16/17 you still have so many more people to meet! Who knows your prince charming could be the first person you set your eyes on at Uni or your first major job. Because of this tying yourself down at such a young age isnt advisable.. and the reality of the situation is a person you meet at 16 could be a totally different person at 26, and having regrets isn't a fantastic feeling especially when you've invested so much time into something! As time goes on you begin to realise what you do and dont want for yourself in the future from learning from your own r.ships (not too serious) and also friends and family!

So young people in all that you do.. never get too serious with a guy, have fun being young and save all that serious stuff for when its required in the future! :D